i need to love. i need to sit at a table and share a meal with friends. i need to sit on the couch and read with my daughter. i need to travel. i need to go for long runs and feel the cold winter air in my lungs. i need to give hugs and be hugged. i need to read books. i need to sit on the water’s edge. i need to feel things churn inside of me. i need to have rich conversations with people i admire, sometimes with a glass (or bottle) of wine. i need to listen to music. i need to laugh until my stomach hurts. i need to show my vulnerability in creative ways. i need to be a little crazy and bold and sometimes impulsive. i need to show my love and not feel restrained.
for me, identifying my needs allows me to live deeply and fully and be the best version of myself. to not be afraid to speak my needs. to not lose myself chasing them. to be fearless in sharing what i need. to be content that these needs make up me. and allow my needs to open my heart and be fulfilled.
“there are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. when we are afraid, we pull back from life. when we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. we need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. if we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.” ~ j. lennon