we have what it takes. to let go. of fear, judgment, anxiety, expectations, disappointment, betrayal, loss. there is a joy that comes with letting go.
it is human nature to become attached to an idea, a person, an object. to devote time and energy into obtaining material things, relationships, our dreams and desires. and then we are scarred when they fall from our grasp for whatever reason. it threatens who we are, or who we think we are. it challenges our values, or what we think we value. the emotional consequences can be never ending, if we let them.
we have a choice. we can choose to live life bitter, mad, or guilty. about the things or people we lose. the mistakes we made. the expectations that weren’t fulfilled. the choice to live life with bitterness, anger, and guilt won’t allow us to be filled with pleasure, wonder or happiness. in order to live life with abundant joy, we need to empty ourselves of the negativity.
letting go doesn’t mean we give up. it doesn’t mean we forget. it doesn’t mean we aren’t survivors. it doesn’t mean we aren’t shaped by loss. it means we are making a conscious decision to choose to define the terms of our own life, despite – and because of – our losses. it means we are adapting to the realities of life. it means we are ever-evolving, opening our hearts and minds to opportunity and goodness.
we have it in us. to let go of whatever is holding us back. regret. friends that drain us. resentment. lovers that betray us. excuses. approval from others. jealousy. white picket fences. blame. egos. smartphone obsessions. comparisons. unrealistic and unhealthy body ideals. feeling trapped. arrogance. fear. self-pity. unworthiness.
letting go of whatever is holding us back allows us to be the most radiant, brave, compassionate, dynamic people we are capable of being. let go and find joy.
so we took down all the pictures
and then we took down all the walls
packed up our expectations
piled them in the hall
yeah we bagged our future
kicked it to the curb
and then we stood there unencumbered
and we stood there undeterred
cause we were done clinging
to the things we were afraid to lose
and the only thing left
was a breathtaking view
~ ani difranco